Christmas is a time for coming together with loved ones but it also highlights those we’ve lost that are no longer at our table, sharing our day or opening presents with us. It’s also a time that shows the changes in our families as our children grow up and move away and their partners join our families
Many of us have Christmas routines, established over many years – for us, Christmas Eve has always been time with my husband’s family, Christmas day with my Mum and Dad and Boxing Day with Mum and Dad and my brother’s family too.
Mum and Dad passed away in 2019 and 2020 and for the first time in over 20 years I didn’t do a proper lunch on Boxing Day – it felt really weird and I felt lost.
Grief from the loss of parents/family members can be triggered by times such as Christmas and New Year and we also realise there are new losses – our children growing up, moving away and establishing their own lives.
We’re having to move from being someone’s daughter to being no-one’s daughter anymore and the mother role we’ve held since that tiny baby was first put into our arms is also having to evolve – these are huge changes that can be challenging to deal with.
I have found EFT to be so helpful over this time – giving me relief around the loss of Mum and Dad as it resurfaces, triggered by something Christmassy, dealing with the usual frustrations of Christmas but this year compounded by the will we/won’t we be locked down?
Regularly, just 5 minutes of tapping has helped to bring the balance back as I’ve tapped on losing them since they died. It’s now only occasionally something that triggers that grief but I have a tool that brings me ease and relief from those intense emotions.
Wishing you all best wishes for a happy and healthy 2022